Silence

 Have you ever walked in a room and everyone stopped talking? What am I thinking, you’re Mrs. Pastor, of course you have. Let’s talk about that today.

First, you are not everyone’s cup of tea and you shouldn’t change yourself to make mean people happy. Because guess what, you can’t make mean people happy no matter what. 

Second, if church isn’t a safe place for you to be yourself, find a place where you can express yourself and be comfortable.

Third, what do you do with a group of people that you can’t get rid of that just don’t like you very much? Find ways to love them, even if they don’t reciprocate, acknowledge, or desire it. 

One of the hardest parts of being a Mrs. Pastor is not growing hard, bitter, or vengeful. Learning how to love people that don’t love you is part of that job. It can be done but not by yourself. And sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a congregation is stop giving them fodder and make your interactions with them short, sweet, few, and far between.  

You’re beautiful and a great friend and even if some churches don’t agree, it doesn’t make it true. Our identity is found in Christ and Christ alone. If we were who the church said we are, our life would be very one dimensional and that’s just not ever going to be true.