Hello, Mrs. Pastor!

Hello! Welcome to our little corner of the web! "Our" meaning yours and mine together. If you're like me you probably have a story about the first time someone called you "Mrs. Pastor." I distinctly remember the first time that someone called me by that as if my husband's title was his name. But even if Pastor was his name no one has ever called me Mrs. Joel. I don't think it was the awkwardness of the name for me so much that it was the realization that for the people that we were both serving, I wasn't someone to them. When pushed to recall a name, the closest they could get was lady married to the pastor.

When we take on this role of Pastor's wife, there's really no way to know how it's all going to turn out. Congregations are so different from one another that there couldn't possibly be an instruction manual for us. We go in, sometimes showing up well after our husbands or wives have taken the job and we hope we can find our spot. We hear all the amazing stories from Mrs. Pastors before us of how they had such loving congregations and made life long friends. And we also hear about Mrs. Pastors that have cried themselves to sleep more nights than they can count. The reality is often somewhere in between. This place, Mrs. Pastor, is hopefully one where we can be real with one another. Its intention is to be a place where we can encourage one another in the journey that we're traveling together. We'll talk about marriage, family, congregation, friendship, spiritual matters, whatever Mrs. Pastors talk about.

As the wife of a pastor for the past 17+ years, serving in three very different congregations, I've been through a lot. I'm hopeful that you will be encouraged by some of the lessons I've learned. And most of all, I pray that I'll be able to learn from you as well! I'm planting this seed for all of us Mrs. Pastors. It's not my blog, it's our blog and if you ever need someone to take a moment, share a cuppa and some real talk, I'm here!

I need you to know, Mrs. Pastor, that I love you and I want to know your name.

Your Sister in Christ,